Coupons from Heaven: A Eulogy

Almost every week for I don’t know how many years, an envelope would land in my mailbox, my typewritten address perfectly stamped out directly in the center. I never needed to look at the return address to know exactly who had sent it or what I would find inside. There was rarely a note…just a handful of meticulously clipped coupons from the current week’s mailer. And every time, it made me smile. I could hear my Grandpa’s voice saying, “Well, I don’t know if you can use any of these, but just throw them away if you can’t.”

I love that they have come to love him as I have loved him, and they have spent enough of their lives with him that they will have their own lasting memories, instead of just stories we tell them. I love that they have had as their great-grandpa one of the greatest men I have and will ever know.

Today I had to come to grips with fact that I won’t ever get an envelope full of coupons in the mail from him again. This morning, at the age of 96, the kindest, smartest, most honest, most humble, and thriftiest angel received his wings with a giant clap of thunder that shook our house and jolted me awake. He always did have impeccable timing, though it was a bit uncharacteristic of Grandpa (otherwise known as Bebop to a younger version of me, and now to my kids) to make such a grand and attention-grabbing exit. As the most unassuming person in any room, he didn’t like to make a fuss or overstay his welcome. When he thought it was about time to leave, he’d say to my Grandma, “We better get out of here, Monica.” And he meant it. He’d be out the door almost before anyone could tell him what a pleasure it had been to spend time with him…and it was always a pleasure. Always. Given this, there’s no way he would cause such a ruckus upon his worldly departure. There had to be a better explanation for all that thunder. My daughter thought maybe he was up there tipping over outhouses, which is how he confessed to spending his Halloweens as a kid (in my Grandma’s words, “Oh, he was ornery!”). But I think the likelier cause was that the man who always had a joke was already making God belly laugh. I have a feeling Bebop had been saving some prime material so as to make a good first impression at the pearly gates.

But back to those coupons. I’m not sure I could think of a better symbol of Bebop’s life than those envelopes of coupons. Because first and foremost, the man was a German banker. And not just for his career. He was pretty much a German banker in his off-time as well. He knew how to save a penny, then where to invest it. That respect for wise spending combined with his incredible work ethic took him from a poor farm boy to a successful businessman who not only provided for his family, but passed on his tools and knowledge. And extra coupons.

The handsomest

But those coupons weren’t just about saving money. I mean, clipping coupons is the WORST. I can barely bring myself to do it for my own grocery shopping, let alone someone else’s. But every week, he did it. Even when he and Grandma had little use for coupons themselves, he still went through with his pair of electric scissors and snipped $1.00 off diapers and 50 cents off Jimmy Dean sausage for his grandchildren. Because he loved us. Because he wanted to take care of us. Because he was thinking of us. He was always thinking of people. And if you were lucky enough to meet Bebop, you could be sure at some point, he WOULD think of you. Because the man had a memory to rival any computer ever built, even up to the very end. And if he loved you, even if he just liked you, you can bet you were a recipient of his generosity at least once in your life.

But don’t think he wanted praise for that. Because he didn’t. Bebop was just like his coupons, tucked away in the back of the paper, no fancy front page headlines vying for anyone’s attention. He just wanted to quietly help you save on a box of cornflakes and didn’t think anyone needed to make a big deal about it.

Well, I’m going to make a big deal about it. Because the life Bebop lived is one I would wish for anyone. The world would certainly be better with more Bebops. Honestly, I’m sad now for a world without the one we had. It’s hard to believe this day is actually here. Logically, everyone’s time comes. But he seemed so invincible to me. I know it’s selfish to want to keep him longer…he was ready after 96 years of good living. And the tragedy of such a long life is that you have to bear the loss of so many of your loved ones – some of whom, by the presumed natural order, should have outlived you. Now he can be with his parents again, his siblings, his friends, and his infant daughter, who died just after birth, and whom he would talk about with the smallest of breaks in his voice.

My Bebop. I’m told I was territorial about him.

I’m happiest for her, the one who never had the chance to know what a special father she had. Now she gets to do all the things with him that we did growing up: going on long walks while eating peppermint candies, watching Looney Tunes cartoons with him, having him save her from garter snakes in the backyard, putting in the last piece of a 3000 piece puzzle, watching him laugh hysterically while retelling the latest Dennis the Menace comic, having him dare her to give him five as hard as she can, playing office on his typewriter, and feeling his arms around her…because he really, really, really loved holding babies. She’s also in for another treat: everything is about to get a little cheaper in Heaven, because I’m sure Bebop brought all the coupons with him.

As for me, Bebop didn’t leave me empty-handed as he left this world. After arriving at my grandparents’ apartment this morning, my mom walked up and said, “Grandpa left you one last thing.” It was a stack of meticulously clipped coupons he had never gotten around to sending before he got too sick. They have all already expired, but it doesn’t matter…because there is no way I am going to part with them anyway. They are my coupons from Heaven.

Ich liebe dich,


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17 thoughts on “Coupons from Heaven: A Eulogy

  1. very touching story – I’m sorry for your loss
    I am looking forward to your take on The Monkees and Papa Nez o<{: -)
    and his duo shows with Micky, and his last show tonight with Micky and Peter.


    1. Thank you. Unfortunately, I was not able to attend that Pantages show. I’ve watched a few videos, though. Holy heck…Circle Sky was electric!! Very bittersweet knowing that very well may have been his last performance as a Monkee. But I’m looking forward to seeing Micky and Peter in November. I’m happy to ride this Monkee train as long as it’s chuggin’.


  2. Oh sweet Kelly. What a beautiful, fitting tribute for such a fine man as you describe. I am sitting here in tears, thinking of that infant daughter and the description you gave of the fun they’re surely having in Heaven now. The thought of those reunions is poignant and sweet.

    My aunt’s mother-in-law passed away last week and today I received a thank you card with the eulogy her son had read tucked in it. She was 87 years old; he described his mom much like you describe your Bebop. He said that she could never act too excited when someone gave her a gift but she’d later gush to someone else about how much it meant to her. It was because she was afraid it would encourage people to give her more gifts if she seemed too enthused. Your story of your grandpa sneaking out before anyone noticed made me think of that. Hugs to you and yours.


    1. Aw, I love that story. That kind of humility is what really endears, and serves as a wonderful lesson for all.

      And yes, I’m quite sure he and his daughter are having a ball together. It makes me very happy to think of that. Thank you for your sweet words, friend.


  3. This man you subscribe was such a blessing to the world.l think I can feel the love you have for him and him you right in the atmosphere around me. My step dad was just the same no d of man. I hope they meet in heaven and talk about their blogger girls. . This is my favorite post you have ever written. Sorry for you and know I will hold your family up in prayer. BLESSINGS


    1. Oh that is so sweet of you to say. I love that your favorite post is about one of my favorite people. If my grandpa and your stepdad are up there talking, I’m sure my grandpa is cracking one joke after another.

      On another note, how is Little Dude and the rest of your brood? I have been so absent from all things blogging for quite some time.


  4. I am so sorry for your loss. The coming days, weeks and months will be hard, but it sounds like you have amazing memories to recall from a life well spent. I wish you love during those hard days.


    1. Thank you. The love does make the sad times easier. I do miss him, but more than anything I am filled with so much gratitude that he was a part of my life for so long. Many memories to keep me warm.


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